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Loss of Sexual Libido in Men can be Serious Business

What? Men can have a headache? Sure! I know it has long since been the tradition for the woman to feign a headache (and even her monthly visitor) to avoid sex. Men can lose libido and this is a situation that is being talked about more and more over the last several years. Ever since Viagra has hit the market the idea that men can have issues is out in the mainstream. A woman avoiding sex is rather normal where as a man doing the same is out of this world crazy. Men tend to avoid admitting a lowering of sexual desire fearing that they may be labeled unfavorably. Nearly 16% of men suffer from some sort of loss of libido so there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Even though it is more common for a woman to lose libido it isn’t as hard on them as it is for the men. Only one fourth of the men that have a low libido have admitted to enjoying life. That means that nearly 75% of men are ashamed about it. This affliction does not happen overnight. Losing your libido is something that can happen over a very small period of time or over the course of years. This is not all that easy to explain as there can be many factors that lead to this problem among men.

How often you have sex with your significant other is absolutely no indication of erectile dysfunction or loss of a sex drive. Many couples will have sex, on average, one a week. If your love life is less than that and you are not the cause then you may be suffering from loss libido. There are some telling movements that can lead you to thinking that your partner may have problems with his libido.

Restricted Touch. In the beginning of your relationship you could get hot and bothered almost anyplace or time but now that has waned. Restrictions are placed on your displays of affection placing them only in the bedroom and never in public.

You are feeling that you just don’t “feel like” being touched or having sex. You stop looking forward to making love to your partner.

When you are having sex is not fun for you. Instead of being excited about it you are more or less adapting an “I could care less” attitude making the sex boring, mundane and mechanical.

 

Where once your mind was active with all things sexual toward your partner you no longer have those thoughts or, if you do, they are far and few between.

Loss of libido in men can be a myriad of issues that can include, chemical, physical and medicinal. Even psychological issues can cause a loss of sexual thoughts and activity. Your testosterone levels may be off, you may be suffering from depression or anxiety, you may not be happy with your own sexual prowess. There is also the possibility that medications you are taking are the cause of your lack of sexual desire. Some of these drugs will directly affect your libido. Many drugs that are prescribed for heart disease, depression and blood pressure can all cause a change in libido and cause erectile dysfunction. Recreational drugs can also be a cause of lack of desire such as marijuana, cocaine and heroin.

The relationship you have with your significant other can also cause you to have a lack of sexual desire. Perhaps your tastes have changed and you are no longer excited by the humdrum sex life they are stuck in. You may also be the victim of a cheating loved one in which case disgust and depression can certainly play a part in being not wanting to have sex with your partner. Many personal issues will easily spill over to the bedroom making it difficult to want sex. Many new dads have this weird phobia bout having sex after a birth. This is because the mind no longer views the mother as someone who is sexual. With this in mind he may be responsible for caring for your baby which can be very draining.
Sex is not about quantity as much as it is about quality. When you look forward to having sex and you happen to enjoy it you will begin to feel positive about it and your relationship. Keep these statements in mind:

Never expect that every sexual encounter you have will be spot on. I know it’s difficult but just laugh it off and move on. You will eventually get everything to work out with your partner.

Stay healthy. Being physically fit will not only help with your confidence in the bedroom but will also increase your libido and end your erectile dysfunction if that’s what you are suffering from.

Maybe you are just feeling stale in the sack. If this is the case then try out sexual fantasies to see if that helps your problem. Tell your partner what things turn you on and allow your partner to do the same things. Communication in a relationship is always very important.

Don’t stay in one singular area. When you are having sex do not just get in and get out with your partner. If you are not performing up to spec then it is your job to at least let your partner achieve satisfaction or else you run the risk of being accused of being not interested. The genital region of your partner is not the only location that feels good so explore.

Whenever you get the chance try to see your partner in a different way. Look at her differently. Try to find that spark that made you attracted to her in the first place.
Unfortunately we sometimes forget why we love someone and we just need a little reminder.

Talk to a doctor. I know that having sexual issues can be embarrassing but it doesn’t have to be. It’s a very natural thing that happens to a lot of men. Your doctor may be able to help. Your medicines could be causing it or it’s psychological. They are there to help so ask for it.